It was the message we all heard.
Wait. Wait. Wait.
Prince Charming is coming.
As a freshman in highschool I remember being told, "The reason God doesn't give someone is because we are just not ready. When we are ready, He'll give out future husband to us."
I was told, again and again that there is a guy out there perfect for me.
This is all one big lie.
Don't take me wrong, just listen.
We all have heard this lie, whether in Youth Group or from our Moms. And half the time it leads to girls in their twenties broken and hurt because Mr. Perfect hasn't come along and swept them off their feet. They've prayed and waited their whole life for this man. And he isn't here. And they wait. And wait. Annnnddddd wait.
So many times I've heard:
"I'm not giving everything to God."
"I don't love my own family enough."
"I am sadisfied in God enough."
"I should love the Lord more."
"When I'm ready, he'll come."
It's lies. Lies of performance. Our performance of how much we serve and love Christ is not going to give us a spouse.
Waiting for a husband can wreck our view of Christ easily.
Christ isn't giving husbands to all the mature girls and holding for the ones who are not ready.
If I could go throw away all the blog posts, facebook posts, and books telling girls "When your ready, your Prince will come." I would.
I'd replace it all with two giant words, Love Jesus.
The Bible never promises us that a perfect man is on it's way. It just calls us to love our God.
Sure, a lot of girls have a spouse waiting for them. I am blessed with an amazing guy I am courting who I hope to wed one day.
But right now all we're called to is to Love our Christ. Sure, we'll want a husband, we'll lust, you'll want sex. But He is not the focus right now in our years of singleness. Christ is. Instead of waiting around for someone who might not exisit, simply fight against the lies of this world.
Your heart might be broken, you might fall. The enemy will tempt you. But FIGHT. And if God gives you a husband to help you in this fight, then that is a huge blessing. But instead of expecting, wonderings, and crying over waiting. Just Love Jesus wherever that may lead you. And Fight.
It's a wait, too. I myself wear a purity ring. This life is just a battlefield and we're bound with lies that we have to be a certain person for a spouse to come along. We don't. We should just look to the cross, living a cross-centered life.